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Bois Will Be Gurls Vol 174

Sissy Life Archives - Taking More Steps Out of the Shadows

 Originally posted Aug 9, 2020

 

 One of the lovely things about social media profiles as a sissy is the ability to create new network of friends and like minded people to interact with and grow with. As a sissy it's also a way to quietly and slowly integrate one's vanilla life a bit more with their sissylife by trying to bring some people you know or have known before into one's sissy world in the hopes they are open minded to accept you then interact with you as the person you are on the inside as well.

My sissylife has always been very carefully managed for a number of reasons. Where I live, the joke is that there are 2 degrees of separation, and this is certainly true. It takes no time at all to connect with someone who knows someone and voila, everyone can know quite a lot in a hurry. So my vanilla life growing up and becoming who I was and what I did and do, before the fundamental change to accept and create a world where Devina could not only exist but have a life of her own, needed to be kept apart. This is not unusual for anyone who has struggled with gender/lifestyle issues whatsoever.

For me to come out and say to everyone, "Tada! Hey I'm a sissified TGirl lover" would ultimately create massive problems for many, and for me just isn't an option at this point in life. The discrete carefully managed approach is best and this I know. It still doesn't mean I don't crave having people from one world discover the other. When I can manage this, it becomes a joy.

 

Outside of my BDSM/kink world, I am so happy to have about a half dozen Women in my social media life who knowingly or unknowingly have known both sides of the complete me, and I keep trying to grow that number but it can be a scary thing. Sending a FB invite as Devina to someone you once dated can be terrifying, and many times has not born fruit but I keep hoping for more acceptance. To those select few that are in Devina's social circle, please know that while you may not realize it, I value your acceptance in ways that are hard to even share in words. I hope to add to those numbers as time goes on.

A journey into a world of Femininity is never easy as a gurl, but even now, I happily find myself at a place that was once unimaginable. One step at a time is always the way forward.

Sincerely Sissy 

Devina

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Our Worst Nightmare & the Fears we all Face

 

This week's scandalous news brought forth an example of every sissy's worst nightmare: Being publicly outed

I don't have the time, or energy to delve into the details of Kristi Noem's relationship(s), Her husband's activities etc. But this week, every sissy, every crossdresser, and every panty boi has felt within them the reminder of the terror we have all felt at either being caught, or the fear of being caught. It's very real.

 From the very first time we explore with Women's underwear, lingerie, or clothing, there is an overriding sense of hyper awareness of the fear of being caught, and exposed. Perhaps today the stigma has relaxed somewhat, but you don't have to go back very far at all to the place where the iron clad stigma was severe and devastating to all those around you if your "secret" was discovered.

I shared and re-shared my own experience of being caught both here and also here. Being caught can have very real and devastating effects on you's life, one's mental health, and one's journey to discover their true selves in their Feminine journey.

The biggest problem is society makes massive broad assumptions of anyone who gets caught (against their wishes) and fetishists, crossdressers, sissies, and budding Tgurls get painted with a very wide brush. The truth of the matter is that anyone exploring their desires around Women's clothing and their own sexuality can all come from vastly different places, with different paths, needs, and outcomes. There simply is no one size fits all.

 

Miss Kendra James put it very simply but very well. And thats why I really don't have a desire to psycho-analyze the actions of Kristi Noem's husband. I will say that there are many different doors that can be opened, and they can be grouped into the following:

Fetish/Kink Play: this can include humiliation, ridicule, feelings of inadequacy etc.. At some point we all likely have started here. My guess is a large percentage of play orientated folks don't progress much past this point

Crossdressing: Can start as a deep seated need to explore hyper Feminine things, probably rooted from a deeper place psychologically, but not yet understood. Fetish players can often progress to this stage and by and large the biggest percentage stay within the above two categories. The basic desires to walk the line of kink/humiliation/exposure for perverse pleasure are main drivers here.

 

 Beyond this stage, things begin to involve a deeper understanding of oneself and one can really begin a journey far beyond their initial starting point.

Sissy Life / Journey:  When one begins to ask internal questions as to why and how they have this unshakable need to explore their Femininity, then does one's Sissy Life really begin. (even before we really understand it as such) The initial kinks, and thrills remain, but now those of us who begin to associate themselves in having a part of them they are unable to "put away". This is where exploration can run rampant, with a wide variety of avenues to explore. It's like being a teenager in a sense, as everything is new and fun!

But there is one thing that never goes away and in many cases as we get older, and deeper into our sissy selves, it can be more harmful. The threat of being outed.

 I've often admire those who embrace their sissy selves and are in a position in life to cast aside any embarrassment of exposure and openly reveal themselves. I have to walk a fine line due to personal and professional landmines in the field I'd love to tapdance in.  And in a sense, back to the subject matter story of this post, I feel terrible for those who are in high profile positions who set traps for themselves.  Do they want to be outed and purposely set their own traps? Are they so consumed with their kinks and obsessions that they are blind to the very real and lasting damage than can happen?  It's probably somewhere in between and too deep of a psycho-analysis to get into. 

But one thing that I do know is that TRUST is a huge factor in when and how sissies, crossdressers, and kinksters can step out of the shadow to reveal themselves. Placing your trust in the wrong people can be a recipe for disaster, and the utmost care should always be taken when opening your trust circle.

 It's taken me a lifetime to amass a circle of Female friends who I have revealed my deepest secrets to, and all these years later that number has yet to hit double digits. I wish I could expand that group to dozens, but I always am aware of the risks. Being a sissy is hard work in so many aspects and I understand why so many stay in the kink/play part of the lifestyle. Sissy rewards are amazing but the path is full of pitfalls, and disaster waiting to strike. 

As we have seen this week, you can't un-ring a bell

 

Devina