Being interested or active as a crossdresser
does not mean a male is gay. It is
possible, but it should not be assumed. So, if you are a straight male who likes to dress up in
Women’s fashion… how do you find a
straight Woman to have a relationship with? Of course, if you don’t want a relationship, there isn’t any point to
talking about personal things like your
fetish/obsession/interest in Women’s clothes,
cosmetics and so on. Unless you just want to get a reaction, kind
of show-offy of you.
Also, if you aren’t straight, then why are you trying to attract
Women? Lastly, crossdressing is mainly on the surface,
once you pass that and get into
transgender males there are different issues. Do not ignore or be dishonest about crossdressing and/or
transgender issues. If you have made
that decision then stand by it and don’t expect a Woman should like you in spite of it. If you hide
something important to who you are, then
how can you expect Her understanding, tolerance or affection when you have made this part of you seem like
something you had to hide.
Are Women attracted to
crossdressers?
If there really is someone for everyone, as they say, then
there is a chance crossdressers will
find Women who like, or tolerate at least, their interest. It may not go as far as sharing actual items of clothing, shaving gear and beauty supplies,
but there could be a lot of fun going
shopping together for fashion, cosmetics and lingerie.
There will be Women who are intolerant. Whatever their reasons, just leave them alone. Crossdressing does make a
lot of people uncomfortable and that is
how it is. Don’t take it personally. Be careful about which of your family, friends, associates and
co-workers you share your personal
information with. Don’t think to use it as a means of shocking people or daring them to accept you as you
are. That’s a bit childish. Also, if you
want to find tolerance than you should be giving tolerance as well. Tolerate those who do not accept
crossdressing.
Meanwhile, look for those who have an
interest in crossdressing. Once you find
a few people who share your interest you will find more places to find more people and groups and so on.
Don’t get discouraged if you don’t meet
someone right away. Make yourself available and be honest with the people you meet. Don’t try to become
the person they want, if that isn’t the
person you are.
Women are attracted to males who can
make them happy, males who listen to
them and Women still like some romance. If you happen to be a crossdresser on top of that, it won’t seem so
very important compared to everything
else.
Being attractive to Women as a
crossdresser.
Women who do like crossdressers tend to
prefer those who are still male, with
all the standard parts and no female body parts (like boobs). I can understand this. Consider how you would
feel, as a male who wants to date a
Woman, if the Woman you liked was wearing a fake penis. Not so atrractive now? There is a reason straight
Women are straight, we like the male
body with the hands bigger than our own, some chest hair possibly, a voice a bit deeper and other features
which are kind of standard to the
masculine.
Women might like a male who takes extra care
with his appearance. I doubt too many
Women would find fault with a male who uses beauty products to polish his appearance. However,
the further along you take that the less
likely you will find Women who will consider you as masculine.
I think the real problem for straight men who crossdress is women
who see them and write them off as being gay. I
guess you could wear an “I’m not gay” pin, but that seems just a bit extreme. So, a straight guy needs to find
other ways to make sure his sexuality is
not ambiguous. It’s in your attitude.
Don’t go overboard
in your appearance. If you exaggerate to the point of no longer looking like a male at all, how
will Women know you are a male, let
alone a straight male? Also, how will see feel about people (family and friends) who see you together?
Yes, it does matter whether you like it
or think it shouldn’t. Does it matter to you that people think you are with an attractive Woman?
Watch your body language. Do you come across as masculine in
the way you walk, the way you stand and
the way you speak? Is that what you want, the way you want people to see you? If you want to give off
the appearance of being gay you should
reconsider attracting straight Women. A
straight Woman is likely to be looking for a straight male, crossdressing aside.
Use your knowledge and experience in being someone who steps between the lines to understand Women and appreciate
the time and care they put into their
appearance. Treat Her like someone special, hold open the door, take her arm in that old-fashioned way
or hold Her hand in public. Little
things mean a lot and those romantic gestures can make her
feel Feminine and important to you. Besides, if you are holding Her hand – then She is also holding your hand.
Are you metrosexual or a full out crossdresser? Is it the
Female look which you like or do you
just want to do more with your appearance than the common, traditional male standards? Maybe the issue isn’t crossdressing but self-acceptance. Something
to consider.
- Laura Brown
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