Some Thoughts on This Day

 I've been wanting to write this blog post for quite some time, and have formulated it, re-formulated it, and more in my head for the better part of 2 years now.  I may not get it all out as I truly intend it, but I hope most of you can understand where it is I'm coming from, and that's from a place of clarity in my own mind, having witnessed the Trans community come forth since the mid 80's when I first discovered it.

My default setting is that I believe all people deserve respect. They deserve to be treated in an honest, straightforward manner, free from malice, free from intimidation, and in general a kind compassionate way, irrespective of race, color, creed, and sex.  My own personal code of conduct can be simplified into this basic statement: Don't Be A Dick To Others.

It's a code I have tried my best to abide by, and has gotten easier the more I got in touch with an embraced my Feminine side. My natural empathy to others has only increased since I accepted my true sissy self.  I learned as well with age and experience that one never knows what another is truly experiencing beneath the veneer they show the world. I live this daily when forced to navigate the vanilla world with panties, etc beneath my daily costume.

When it comes to the trans community, we have reached a place that can be best explained as a quagmire, and I'm sorry to say, much of it has been self inflicted by those who have been the loudest, and most militant. The Code, Don't Be A Dick To Others, has been obliterated in many respects, and the natural reaction by so many in the vanilla world who might have been accepting and understanding has been predictable. 

I see the Trans community as a tree with many branches, and not all of them grow at the same rate, and not all of them are even healthy.  The trunk of this tree belongs to those who truly know from an early age, without the influence or manipulation of others (major point of emphasis here), that they simply do not belong in the original packaging they were born into. To these individuals, I have the utmost empathy and respect for their journey. I have come to now know more people in this category than I ever could have thought possible, once upon a time, and my own life and journey has been enriched by them.  To the trans trailblazers of the 60's 70's 80's and beyond, their courage and defiance was and is awe inspiring. My own gender bending journey has brought me to a place where I identify my physical needs of companionship and physical joy with those who I will refer to as Nature's Third Gender. They are the rarest of flowers, the 4 leaf clovers, the Desert Roses, and the majority of them simply wish to live their lives as almost all of us do, without bothering anyone, and free to pursue their own life and interests. My heart goes out to them.

Somewhere along the way in the past decade, the struggle and acceptance that Trans people seek has been corrupted. There really is no other way for me to put it, and I fear that a lot of honest work is being undone by this hijacking of this group by radicals, who are hell bent on forcing their beliefs and agendas onto others. They have very little room for real inclusivity if you do not conform to their politics, their agendas, and do not march along with them in their general state of perpetual outrage.  

This has become the reason why I avoid the Alphabet Coalitions, Pride Day events, etc... For as far as those who live outside the lines, have come, I find these groups harshly intolerant if you are not goose-stepping in lock with the movement.  As most sissies have experienced firsthand, we are often most scorned and ridiculed by those who you would think should be on our side. Heaven help you if you have an opinion that runs contrary to their military beliefs regarding parental rights, etc... I know I'm not alone in this as quietly many have reached out in support of my common sense beliefs.

There is room in society for all of us, but if we, who are against the grain, do not want to be sanded out, we need to treat others with the same level of respect that many demand only in one direction.  There is nothing wrong at all about being aghast at seeing Drag Shows for children audiences for example.  In my own sissy journey, I am grateful that I'm not finding my way in this age, full of those ripping over their own self guilt and self loathing to groom, manipulate, and push youth into life altering decisions, with often devastating ramifications.  They leave families and loved ones to pick up the pieces while "Guidance Councillors, Teachers, and Activists" get to walk away scott-free from any car wrecks they help create.

My own questioning of my sexuality, my sexual preferences etc didn't fully materialize until I was well into my 20's, with age and experience finally allowing me to accept myself into my early 30's. I often shudder to think what terrible choices I may have made while being wrongly influenced by others. 

So where am I going with all this?  Lets start with the realization that parents and others simply need to offer love and understanding to those who don't always feel they conform. Not all of us will reach the point of SRS, HRT etc. Most Tomboy Girls will become beautiful Women, most effeminate males will become well rounded dads, if both are given the freedom to find themselves and unconditional love surrounds them. The notion that a child knows they are trans at 3 or 4 is completely absurd and does more to harm all of us than any redneck. I don't know how those of us with real journeys and real struggles extract ourselves from a group that has been hijacked by radicals and a growing number of people who need real therapy to deal with some very real issues, who jump and or let themselves be pushed into the "Trans Bin"?  

In my heart of hearts I don't think the number of individuals in society that experience genuine gender dysphoria has changes over centuries.  The fact that in the last 10 years the number of people who claim gender dysphoria has exploded and I fear the growing resentment by the masses towards the corrupted community as a whole will cause major damage.

As a sissy, the ability to find those who are open minded and openhearted, to want to learn an individual's story, is becoming more and more harsh. The radicals in charge now have everyone believing that if you are Trans, or live your life with a genuine Feminine side, that we are all pedophiles, perverts, and potential mass shooters, because so many who are lost and are looking to find some sense of connection, have been pushed into our camps.  We can't expect others to fix this for us, because we allowed it to happen on our watch. 

To those who have gotten to the end of this post and are not vibrating with rage, and swearing at me, labelling me, etc... thank you. I hope we are part of the solution as rational adults who simply don't want to be dicks to anyone, and know that in order to be treated with respect, we muct conduct ourselves in a respectful way to others.  The Alphabet coalition has to take a long hard look at itself in this regard.

In closing, to any Woman who is reading this, I hope You can find it in Your heart to give those of us who are sincere and genuine, a chance. Let us surprise you in the best of ways. Your love and acceptance can help a lot of people with their own healing. I will step off my soapbox now..

Love

Devina